There’s something to be said about a woman that’s been through the fire.
She’s endured the toughest challenges. She’s experienced the darkest days. She’s stumbled but, she hasn’t fallen. She’s a fighter. For her tenacity and true grit, she’s admired.
She is, Veronica Moses.
A native of Connecticut, Veronica is the fearless leader and creator of Mommy Moments – an organization she created when her life took an unforeseen turn.
“It was July 29th, 2008,” she recalls. “He was struck and killed by a train when I was 3 months pregnant.”
“He” was Veronica’s boyfriend, Brendan. He was tragically killed– just months before meeting their love’s greatest creation, Brandy.
“His last words to me were ‘I love you, too, and, I’m glad we’re having this baby together,” she said.
The first few years following his death were extremely challenging for the then 21-year-old. Hurt and anger consumed her heart as she prepared for motherhood. And, what was once an unshakable faith had turned into a cloud of doubts and insecurities as life continued to spiral downward.
“One thing I did do was pray throughout my pregnancy,” she said. “I asked God to please bring my child safely into this world.”
The traumatic circumstances began to take an overwhelming toll on Veronica’s health, causing great concern. Doctors had predicted that Veronica’s child would be born with a series of challenges and physical ailments. Her consistent prayer and faith proved otherwise.
Veronica gave birth to Brandy, their vibrant, beautiful, baby girl on February 13, 2009. Her healthy arrival was a true testament to what prayer and faithfulness can do.
With limited time to grieve, Veronica immediately jumped into motherhood. But, it was only a matter of time until she started to reach her breaking point. That breaking point came in 2016.
“I was dealing with depression, I was very suicidal,” she shared. “I was planning to end my life because that’s how hurt I was.”
Of life’s many challenges, Veronica says conquering her depression was one of the toughest to tackle. Hesitant to admit, she was reluctant to seek therapy because of its stigma not only within the African American community, but also within the church.
“We’re told that depression is a spirit and to just pray about it,” Veronica said. “Yes, prayer does work but, at the same time, there is nothing wrong with talking to someone.”
Veronica says the decision to fight for her life was solely hers. Allowing heartbreak to push her into her purpose, Veronica launched Mommy Moments in 2016.
A nonprofit organization turned online community, Mommy Moments serves as a resource for mothers of all ages to learn, develop and connect about raising children in today’s society. It provides mothers with everything from the latest fashion trends to essential advice like tips for appropriate playdates. Veronica even pens personal essays that keep it real about the challenges of motherhood.
It’s Mommy Moments that has inspired Veronica to remain transparent about life’s challenges. By speaking publicly about her story, Veronica proves to many what is true — tough times don’t last but, tough people do.
“I didn’t think I was going to make it to see my 30th birthday,” she admitted. “I really didn’t want to do this anymore. I blamed myself for his death and I had to come to terms that it wasn’t my fault.”
While grateful for healing and proud of her growth, Veronica says her greatest accomplishment will always be raising her now 9-year-old daughter.
“I see so much of myself in Brandy,” she said. “ Everyday, I tell her that she’s beautiful, she’s a princess, she’s a great athlete and an amazing person and to not let anyone tell her different. I tell her to go after every single dream.”
This summer will mark 10 years since the day Veronica’s life changed forever.
Acknowledging that healing is a constant process, Veronica is getting back to who she says was a “fun-loving person.” She’s getting back to being that gracious woman that is most known for her genuine heart to serve others. Most importantly, she’s getting back to being a woman after God’s heart. She says she’s always been that way, and she always will.
“I can absolutely see the light at the end of the tunnel,” she admits. “I am much lighter now.”